artist, writer, graphic designer, teacher, stepmother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, counselor, athlete, fabulous chef (if I do say so myself), and spontaneous living room dance party enthusiast. I believe that we have it in us to embrace all of life's experiences with flexibility and zest, as long as we remain emotionally truthful and expressive, and seek out support and companionship along the way.
When I began this blog in 2005, I was working as a counselor in an abortion clinic and had just suffered my second miscarriage. Having children, or not having children, was very much on my mind. I described motherhood as my "urgent but ambivalent aspiration." I wanted to write about that, about my work, and about "choice" from this wider context.
And then my marriage quite suddenly fell apart, and I found myself writing about that too.
Over the years, this blog has become a haven for me, a refuge, and a lens through which I frame my experience and gain perspective. When I learned that I have breast cancer, there was no question in my mind: I would blog my way through this as well.
My hope is that by sharing my story, readers might find solace, humor, insight, inspiration – something of use to take into battle in their own life's challenges.
I have received so much in return. Watching my readership grow from a handful each week to hundreds daily has been thrilling. Some readers have been with me for years, for which I am humbled and awed and eternally grateful. What a gift it is to have a tribe following my journey and cheering me along! We all deserve that!
These days I'm working hard to update the blog. I want to list resources for people with cancer and those that support them. The woefully out-of-date fertility and choice links need revamping. Plus I want to provide tips and encouragement on gathering a tribe of supporters around whatever you face, whether we're talking about fun, self-imposed challenges or not fun, life-altering traumas.
I've also begun a YouTube channel, where I vlog about cancer, life, and the silly cute funny things my dog Millie does to entertain me every day. If there's anything you'd like to see there, or here on the blog, I'd love to hear from you. Drop me an email, or post a comment below.